Why women date other marrieds?
Chat about a loaded theme that no one wants to speak about, that’s it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on since ancient times. Extramarital affairs can be filled with problems, cause sadness, and other problems. In addition you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty thing, finances, age difference, faith background, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I shall identify an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, married woman date.
Why do women have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are women seeking affairs. I am sure mainly though it is just the human state, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Physically we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and exciting, and sex makes us escape the world for a short period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Somebody are able to turn the craving on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another individual, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos society has erected against extramarital affairs. For many people the yearnings will beat their fears and make them risk the wrath of not only their family, but the public as well. So why, what is the mechanism?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is very pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not hurt your relatives or anybody else? You would need to reduce the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the largest group, colossal truly. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they feel comfortable in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the children to consider. Your assets are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them completing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An marital affair occasionally solves the trouble while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a frequent groung I fear. One or the other, usually the guy is sexually neglecting his spouse for a multitude of reasons. As a man I truly appreciate you guys neglecting your ladies and making them accessible to us guys of romance, making them “lonely wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, could be compassion is disappeared, could be it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Maybe we have simply developed distantly, our common concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is diverce of what you want. Maybe I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for financial gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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